Deaf and Queer (or Bi) | #BiWeek

Video: https://youtu.be/h4gdmqoWflI

Bye (bi) week! *chuckling* Okay, that was a really bad joke, let’s move on.

Hello, and welcome to another post. I know, so soon! I filmed this in advance then wrote it after editing and this is not scripted so… I don’t know how long this will be.

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So…I’m a bad bi person. I didn’t realize this week was Bi Week until today. From when you’re seeing this, two days ago. Yeah, so. Whoops. Can I just quickly say that I think it’s great that International Week of the Deaf and Bi Week are the same week? No complaints from me! Oh yeah, if you didn’t know I was bi, well. Hi, I’m bi! I’ve never explicitly said this in a video. I have said that I am queer (but not bi). And that’s not because I don’t like that label, no. It’s just… I like queer. It fits me. Bi fits me too.

Let me clear something up first. Bi, generally, equals two. Yes. That is correct. But! In this case, I saw this definition three times in like a week, and I really like this definition. For me, bi means I’m attracted to the same gender…and ALL the other genders. [finger guns]

Okay, I feel like this post will end up with me using finger guns a lot. That’s a bi thing, just so you know. For those of you who are really confused, the joke in the bi community is that you can tell someone’s bi if they use finger guns…a lot. Which I do. My YouTube outro is a variation on finger guns! Anyway, that’s not the point of this video. I just wanted to say this is Bi Week, and hi I’m bi!

I’ve had a lot of people be a little confused about me. They’re like, “Hmm…Are you gay, or are you straight?” Then when they ask me: “Are you straight?” No. “Oh, so you’re gay.” No. There are other things other than straight and gay, you know. People forget that bi people exist. We’re in the LGBTQ+! B! Hello? We’re there for a reason. There’s a lot of videos out there for Bi Week, I’m sure. I just haven’t really looked for them. I should though. But if you go on Twitter and search #BiWeek, there will be plenty of posts. Also, GLAAD is the one who’s promoting this week, so that’s great. I will link the video here that made me think yeah, I should make my own video.

The video is by Jackson Bird, a trans YouTuber. The title of the video is “Why I Don’t Talk About Being Bi.” I thought it was interesting, but his reason is not the reason why I don’t talk about being bi. I’ve never actually talked about this before on my channel/blog. I’ve always said yes, I’m queer, but I’ve never explained more about that. So! Basically.

At this point, it’s a little over three years since I figured out oh, yeah, I’m bi. Once I figured it out, I’m like wooooow. It’s really obvious now, thinking back. Yeah. I wish I could say, “Oh I’ve always known my whole life.” No, I didn’t. I probably knew though, subconsciously. I didn’t really have much exposure to the queer community until college, really. Yes, I lived close to Seattle, a hour away. I have a few friends who live there, from there, whatever. But… I went to a high school at a really small, very white, really Christian high school. So…you can say that the queer community wasn’t really there. I’ve had queer people in my life growing up. My best friend growing up was gay. Well, he didn’t come out until early high school, but that’s not the point. It’s not like I had NO exposure so I never thought about it, no.

I had exposure.

I just…didn’t have those feelings, I guess?

Until college. Even then, it still took me a while. I think part of that is because generally, I don’t feel any romantic attraction to a person until I’ve known them for a while or I feel I have a strong emotional connection (possible demiromantic). That might have contributed to my delay in figuring out that I was bi. Hella bi. If you look at my YouTube channel art now, it’s the bi flag. If you didn’t know that, that’s the bi flag. On a slant, but yeah.YT Channel Art 2017.png

I have experienced biphobia. Well not phobia, not a fear, but certainly erasure. They will say, “Oh, which do you like more?” As if it really matters? Or… “You can’t like more than one gender!I don’t see how you can like only one gender. I’ve had people tell me bi isn’t a real thing. I’ve had people tell me, “Oh you’re really pan, not bi.” Hm, no. I like the term bi. I connect with bi. So I will use bi.

For you little bis out there, you are valid. Bisexuality is a real thing. If you feel you are bi, you are bi. There’s no “bi enough.” No. Forget that.

Jackson said this in his video, and I absolutely agree. I would love to more characters in media – TV shows, movies, whatever – say “I am bi.” And not, “I’m not into labels.” Come on! That’s a cop-out. Following up with that, I would love to see more characters say “I’m ace/I’m aro.” And not, “I’m not really into people.” Again, cop-out. Also, it would be fantastic if the writers decided to go ahead and make Wonder Woman come out as bi on the big screen. And before any of you bros say “The liberal media is ruining it! All of these snowflakes!” Hush! Wonder Woman is bi. It’s in the comics. So, it’s canon. [finger guns]

I don’t really know where I was going with this video. I didn’t really have any list of thoughts or anything. I’m just. Bi week! Woo! Make a video and post! So. Here you go. I hope it kind of made sense? I hope you enjoyed this video, and learned something more about me. If you are bi, or want to support us, go ahead and make your own videos, posts, pictures, whatever. Use the hashtag #BiWeek, and also check out GLAAD’s website for this week.

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